I am currently working a project of the sins that we think are more respectable than others. I came across the video below with three women talking about gossip from the Gospel Coalition. Before you watch it, keep in mind a couple of things:
- Gossip is a sin. “They are filled with all unrighteousness, evil, greed, and wickedness. They are full of envy, murder, quarrels, deceit, and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, arrogant, proud, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, and unmerciful.” (Rom 1:29–31 HCSB). It could get lost in this list as we look for the things we don’t do, rather than the things we do do and need to repent of. But it is there, reminding us that it is a sin on the same list as murderers and God-haters.
- Gossip is not just a ‘women’s’ sin. While the video is about three women talking about how they deal with gossip from their other girlfriends, this is not isolated to women. Some of the worst gossips I know are not just men, they are men in ministry. We use the excuse that we need to looking at each others reputation. This is true, (1 Tim 3:1-13) but this should be a tested character, not relying on what some other person has said, which frankly may or may not be true. This is not just for one part of the church, I have seen gossip in the old and the young, men and women.
- Gossip can be incredibly destructive for relationships and the church. Here are some scriptures to meditate on: “And the tongue is a fire. The tongue, a world of unrighteousness, is placed among the parts of our bodies. It pollutes the whole body, sets the course of life on fire, and is set on fire by hell.” (James 3:6 HCSB).“Whoever conceals an offense promotes love, but whoever gossips about it separates friends.” (Prov 17:9 HCSB). “Without wood, fire goes out; without a gossip, conflict dies down.” (Prov 26:20 HCSB). This last proverb is a reminder that gossip fuels a conflict because it is based on what people think happened, rather than on what actually happened.
So let me ask you, are you a gossip?
- How important is it for you to be ‘in the loop’, in the ‘know’? How do you feel when you don’t know things?
- How do you feel when there is information that is passed on about you, whether it is true or not?
- Can people trust you with information that is confidential? Do you stop and think about what it will do to them when you pass the information on?
You may need to watch the video….
How to Resist the Allure of Gossip from The Gospel Coalition on Vimeo.